I learned loads about myself in 2022 – it probably shouldn’t have taken me 57 years, but as we’re all a work in progress then I guess it’s ok to take the time and learning…
This is my 2022 retrospective.
Putting myself first didn’t come naturally, in fact it was so much harder than I thought.
Over the years I have learned to compromise my time, my happiness and my hopes and dreams. I got comfortable with over giving and being that person. I learned this year (the hard way as always) to stop giving so much of myself and to start saying No. To stop trying to fix everything and everyone – as a natural fixer this was so hard.
It wasn’t all down to me. I had to learn to put myself first.
I was inspired by so many people, and yet often disappointed by their apparent lack and selfishness – I know, I told you it was a really tough year.
Learning that my work (which I love) doesn’t need to define me. That was the hardest!
I have checked out of so many online connections, I won’t call them friends – I don’t know them – just an online presence and I’m bored and tired of the “look at me, me, me” postings.
I’ve checked out and walked away from working for toxic bosses, and clients who with their own insecurities created toxic work environments.
In 2022 I stood my ground with a client who refused to pay, took her to court and won. I should have stood my ground with others in the past, but didn’t and paid the price, financially and to my reputation.
I went on a two week yoga / juice retreat by myself – and I loved it!
Sleep became a priority in 2022 and now manage nearly 9 hours a night. We have learned to lie in and we love it!
I’ve spent more time in nature, walking on the beach. It really is my happy place.
Found that I LOVE paddle boarding – I think it’s my thing!
I’ve shed 15kgs that felt like a huge toxic burden.
I’ve just completed my Couch 2 5k and actually enjoyed it! So much for that finishing the London Marathon in 2012 – and now, a full ten years later I will call myself a runner.
2023 Goals
I learned so much in 2022 and one aspect was that I don’t need to boss or smash my goals. So I don’t have any goals for 2023 and I guess that is the final realisation that I am the goal. It’s time to care for me, to strengthen me, to build my resilience, to let go of all the stuff (and people) who drain me and feel free!
I don’t have goals for 2023 but there’s a list of stuff I’m going to try in 2023.
New Stuff I’m Going to Try in 2023…
- Putting myself first
- Being kinder to myself.
- Running 3 – 5km 5 days a week.
- Swimming 2 times a week.
- Try weight lifting.
- MORE paddle boarding.
- 80/20 plant based.
- No booze – not because I have a problem with it, it’s just I feel better and clearer when I don’t drink.
- Finish and publish my book.
- More time with people I love.
- Not buying any clothes in 2023 (except a new sports bra and underwear)
- Asking for help.
- Spending more time with my parents and just being present and more patient.
I learned so much in 2022, and I think what I really mean, is that I found ME in 2022 and I’m excited for what 2023 brings.
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away. Maya Angelou
Here’s to experiencing wonderful moments in 2023 that take my breath away!
This lovely picture was taken in December 2022 in Southern Portugal after another glorious day on the beach enjoying the winter sunshine.